Marriage - Second Time Around (Part 2)

(Do read Part 1 before reading Part 2.)

It's been 4 years now since I got married for the second time on the 12th of January, 2013. Gosh! 4 years ago too that I posted of my marriage and since then, a lot of things have happened. The good and the bad, happy and the sad, adjustment periods and lots of normal marriages go of course.

Adjustment period.
Yeah, what is an adjustment period some may ask. It's a period whereby a couple goes through and encounters in the course of being in a marriage. The adjustment period may take between one to two years or maybe even more for some and it all depends on the individual's characters and upbringing as well I suppose. There should be give and take, lots of trust, honesty, patience, respect for each other and a degree of openness between the couple but of course privacy is also of importance.

Speaking from my experience only, (since it's my post in my blog) I can only relate what I went through the last 4 years. Bei…

Am I ready?

Yesterday, a friend of mine passed away. She was only 46 and if I might say, still in the prime of her life. She was on life support for 2 days and her loved ones, family and friends never stopped praying for a miracle but Allah knew best. She succumbed to brain aneurysm but not before putting up a fight. May Allah bless her soul and place her among the righteous.

Am I ready to face my creator? Frankly speaking, a big NO! I have so much unfinished business waiting to be completed. So many more things to learn, to equip myself with what's necessary to ensure my final transition goes smoothly, God willing.

Everyday, I think of death. As macabre as it sounds but I do! The more so after I reached half a century on earth 3 years ago. I can just 'go' anytime, anywhere and anyhow. Our lives are fragile and unpredictable. We may seem healthy and strong with no apparent illness or sickness. But when our time is up, we got to go. No two ways about it, no negotiations for extensions.…

Resolutions, resolutions, resolutions...

Yeah...what are resolutions exactly? For me, resolutions are a set of goals I set for myself to be accomplished, maybe, till the end of the year....haha... The goals varies and of course that which suits my needs, in other words.

I was first introduced to having a new year resolution by my late father when I was in my early teens. He would make me and my other sisters write out our resolutions and read them out to him and my mum! Yup! We had to read our resolutions to him so he would know if we had our priorities straight. Anyway, he gave us each a diary too so that we can keep track of our activities. Initially, we were most diligent in filling up our diaries but as the year progressed, we became lazy and stopped updating our activities altogether...that was till another new year approached...hahahaha

The same can be said for our resolutions too. We would try to complete what we had listed but somewhere through the year, the resolutions took a back seat to other daily stuff. So, for …

Am back!

Have not been blogging for quite sometime now and with the advent of 2017, I thought I would start again and this time with a new name, DIANARA'S OWN...

Hopefully, this time, I will get to put across whatever thoughts I have on subjects and issues that I  encounter everyday, be it what I see and read online or those that I personally experience. So, whatever I will be blogging on, it will be solely what I think and therefore, anyone can agree to disagree.

Here's to a more fruitful and interesting 2017. HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

Tributes to MH370

A tribute to MAS/MH370

MAS our Wings of Gold
Flying people both young and old
One of the best as oft been told
Flying high, strong and bold.

Across the skies making a name
Bringing fortune, bringing fame
One of the best from Southeast Asia
From our beloved country MALAYSIA.

MH370, in a fleet of many
Connecting people from every nook and cranny
Flying people from nation to nation
Offering a service, giving satisfaction

Saturday morning, of you we lost sight
Since then we've searched with all our might
Assistance came from many countries
Aiding in search across the boundaries.

Hoping and waiting for you to be found
We wait patiently with prayers abound
That you land safely on the ground
Your precious cargo, safe and sound.


~ Lady Dianara Kamil

I have nothing much to say
Only just to hope and pray
That MH370 will soon be found
All aboard, safe and sound....

It's been six days, so much has been said
Speculations and assumptions to be put paid
O Al…

Marriage - Second Time Around (Part 1)

Yeah...what is marriage the second time around eh? Don't know if there's anything much I can say for now for it's only been about 3 weeks that I remarried. But what I can say is that it feels good and I am embarking on a new journey somewhat... for in this marriage, I have parents-in-law! In my former marriage, I only had sisters and brothers-in-law and that too, I have known them since childhood.

Anyway, my parents-in-law are very lovely people...down to earth, humble and unimposing...simple people in fact and I am comfortable with them. Of course it takes getting used to calling my father-in-law 'baba' but then, I could...haha...Calling my mother-in-law 'mak' was easier cause I have been doing that since before I got married.

I am married to a wonderful guy 11 years my junior and so far, I don't have any problems with that. The age difference does not bother me at all...the more so with my husband. I still respect and obey him as how a wife should. Me…

To forgive and forget?

Try as I may and try as I might, it's not easy at times to forgive people what they have done to me. The severity of the action and deed is just too much to bear and to be forgiven...especially when it's done by your own kin. If it's by others, I don't think I will be bothered too much for they are no ties that bind.

It's been 3 years now...and it's still difficult for me to forget as well what had happened and the ensuing 'events', as how I will put it. I was the victim but I was made to look and deemed otherwise. Tales were carried and spread here and there and people seemed to believe even though they don't know me. All because of the great 'actress' who had convincingly poisoned peoples minds into thinking negatively about me.

How sad can that be? How unimaginable that a kin whom one has always helped when needed can turn 360 degrees! All the lies, dramas and masquerade could have been tailor made for a movie too! How awesome can that be h…